A Letter to My Big Sister
“And Thy seed shall be as the dust of the earth, and Thou shalt spread abroad to the west, and to the east, and to the north, and to the south: and in Thee and in Thy seed shall all the families of the earth be blessed.” (Genesis 28:14)
Over the years, I have often thought of our childhood. I have thought about all the times I watched you do your hair, your makeup, and select your clothes for the day! While I watched you, I thought how perfect you are … how beautiful you are … how much I wanted to be just like you! The things that I thought then are words that I regret not saying to you earlier than now.
As children, one sees the world in a very different light. At times, you want to make other siblings mad at you for any reason. Indeed, at times, you become confident that you don’t want or even need sibling love or support. As children, we hardly ever realize the importance of family. In fact, we often view them as an annoyance in life.
Yes, siblings get in the way, steal your clothes, and tell your parents the bad things you did that day! (haha, yep I did that!)
But when we get older, it’s funny how one’s view of family changes. I often think about the moments that I could have said I love you one more time (I love you). I think about the times when I didn’t have to say those mean words out of frustration. I think about the effect those words had on you, even thirteen years later. I often think about how much I miss watching you do your hair and your make up. I often think how life raced ahead of me and changed so many things.
Today, here we are with families — some big, some small — but inherently, all of our respective families unique! Struggling to become everything we need to be for our children. Righting all of their wrongs. Fixing all of their mistakes. Teaching them the things that need to be taught, all the while continuously reminding them how important family is.
We remind our children of the importance of family even when it seems that each day is a fight, a struggle just to make it through. Our thinking being that so long as you do the best you can … and teach them right from wrong … you can say in good conscience that yes, we have done a good job! And thus, my dear sis this is my message for you.
You have done a great job! You have not been handed anything easily. Indeed, you have struggled each day. You have fought the biggest battle life gives and you have won. Even though I may not say it often enough, you continue to be my role model. You continue to be my rock. Your strength and inspiration is why this day I can make parenting look so easy … everything I know I learned from you.
I miss our children’s laughter, their giggles, their playful smiles. This vacation we had together, as a family was the perfect holiday. The family bonds that were formed therein can never be broken. Memories that will last a lifetime for all of us. The one thing I will cherish for years to come is that I am blessed with such an amazing family. One that I did move very far away from — and today as I write this — I think too far! But I am blessed to have each one of my siblings in my life. Blessed with all of my nieces and nephews. Blessed in so many ways!
The next time we are all together (hopefully, sooner rather than later) we will continue to form our relationships as adults … and our kids will continue their journey of faith knowing each other. You are my very best friend, and that will never change. We are truly blessed to have each other and our family!
Thank you for your blog. Your words touched me, and made me miss you more than you will ever begin to understand. I love you …