Chose Jesus above all else
“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear [it].” (I Corinthians 10:13)
When I was a little girl, I knew drugs were bad. But other than knowing that, I knew nothing. I sang along to the ‘just say no‘ commercials. It wasn’t something that didn’t need to be talked about. How I long for kids today to be similarly that naive!
In fact, if someone had asked me who does drugs, my response would have been along the lines of someone who lives in scary, dark places. Places for me that didn’t exist in my sunshiny world. Fortunately, my naivety lasted until I was fifteen. When I was a teenager, a friend told me that my boyfriend was smoking dope. Being me, I knew it was horrible and broke up with him right away. Of course, being fifteen meant that when he said he would never do it again, he was sorry and we became boyfriend/girlfriend again.
When I was eighteen and engaged to this same boy, I was still fairly naive. Okay, I was clueless. I think my parents suspected but neither said anything. One day, my dad saw my boyfriend out on his dirt bike and told me how he dropped his stereo on the road. Weird, I thought! When I asked him about it, my boyfriend told me it was an old stereo — no big deal. Life went on. That stereo wasn’t important. Then it happened — a moment forever engrained in my life — as if I had been hit by a reality train.
We were at a church meeting being held in the hotel where my boyfriend worked. One of the staff came over and talked to him. Right away, he told me he had to leave. Since I was driving, I needed an explanation. He said, “The police were going to come to the church and arrest him unless he was home in a half hour. WHAT?!?! Apparently the day my dad saw him, he had been drinking and high. While high, he and a buddy broke into a bunch of cottages and stole stuff. The stereo that was no big deal? It wasn’t his. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I was mad. How could I spend all my free time with a person who would do this? How could I not know????
In the end, we stayed together. Yes, I know what you’re thinking — silly girl — and you would be right;) I was blind to the reality that someone I trusted was actually deceiving me. Our relationship only lasted a few more months. The final straw was when I found out he was drinking at a staff party after he promised me that he was sober. All those AA meetings he was supposed to being attending, were actually spent drinking and getting high with his buddies.
I was 21 before I knew what marijuana actually smelled like — only to discover that it was an odour I already knew. Every time I had gone to his family home (and I spent many hours there since his house was right across the road from my house) the smell was more than prevalent. Apparently, marijuana wasn’t a taboo thing in his house 😦 In hindsight, I’m glad I grew up in a home that allowed me to be totally naive — at least, until I became an adult.
Sadly, Kirk passed away last year from a drug overdose. When marijuana wasn’t strong enough, he started using harder drugs and despite his numerous attempts to get clean, he just couldn’t overcome his addiction. He left behind 2 kids, and a family that loved him. He was only 36.
Because of this, I’ve talked extensively about drugs with my son. And yes, pot is harmful regardless of what some people would have us all believe. I don’t want my son growing up believing there is a magical fix out there. As a mom, I want him to turn to Jesus if things in life get tough. I want him to pray when he needs strength to NOT do as his friends do. I want him to know that the best drug is prayer and that the peace that passeth all understanding comes from our Lord God and Saviour Jesus Christ. He still reigns!
“The LORD [is] my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, [and] my high tower.” (Psalms 18:2)