“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubles. Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” (Proverbs 31:10)
Stay at home mothers play a very important role. I know this to be true so in no way is this blog intended to lessen or reduce a mama’s importance in any way.
Me? I have never been a good stay at home mom. To suggest I even qualify as a “stay at home” mom is an irony in itself. In fact, I’m more likely to be described as the “drag my kids everywhere I go” kind of mom when I am not a “maintaining a career path” mom. That seems suitable. There have been days when we have left the house at 7:30 in the morning and haven’t returned home until 10:00 that night. I am known for maintaining a busy schedule between church, job and friends that also includes outside the home mom duties such as shopping or appointments. I have never had a qualm about bringing my kids everywhere. Indeed, rarely was there ever a day we actually stayed at home for the entire day.
But I have read blogs on the lives of other stay at home moms. My sister for example regularly shares blogs from other stay at home mothers. These all seem to have two things in common — playdates and yoga pants. (The latter being mentioned more than once in her blogs.) Because of this, my sister has encouraged me to visit Costco multiple times because they are known to have THE BEST yoga pants. I have been told countless times to “embrace” the yoga pants. Just the other day, she posted a youtube clip about this Christian comedian who sings a song about his wife’s super power, and you guessed it, it’s the yoga pants. Well, I can tell you that the only time I have ever wore yoga pants is while I was running or to bed as pajamas. I own two pairs and they were both purchased for the purpose of running during the summer. You guessed it — I am the mom who wears jeans. I am the mom who doesn’t understand the appeal of yoga pants. I am the mom who is never home!
But tonight, it dawned on me. It hit me as quickly and as powerfully as a head on collision. Caught me so totally off guard that I honestly have yet to recover from it. Ready? In the last 60 hours. I have been gone from the house for a total of 1.5 hours. In those 1.5 hours, I was outside for approximately 10 minutes. Are you ready for the really, really scary part? Out of those 60 hours, at least 25 of those I spent in yoga pants. Then tonight, I saw someone giving away a pair of yoga pants and as soon as I saw it, I was writing “I want them!” Me! Wearing yoga pants! Staying at home! Not even realizing that we (being me and the three toddlers) didn’t leave the house!
I’m not sure what happened. But I do recall yesterday, as I watched my children playing, that I caught myself laughing at their imaginary game. In these last hours, there have been moments in my day that I have spent chasing them through the house playing “monster.” Yesterday, I made them play dough. Today, I sat snuggling on the chair with my littlest one for thirty minutes while he curled into my arms. Yesterday, he fell asleep while we snuggled and that was okay. More astounding, my house was messy all day and I didn’t clean it up. Tonight, I used my quiet time to fold my laundry.
What is HAPPENING TO ME!?
The truth is — I really don’t know what God has planned for me. I know what my mom has planned for me and I know what many other family members are praying for me to become but I never really thought I would be content in fulfilling my role as a stay at home mom (SAHM). Huh?
Who would’ve guessed it? I can’t guarantee that I will always be content with this new adjustment in my life but something seems to be working because both my heart and my mind started changing without me even realizing it.
Oh, and for all my family who are now getting their hopes up, you won’t catch me in yoga pants. Nope, I am not turning into a sentimental mom. Yes, I am still counting the days to my youngest boy’s first day of kindergarten.
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” (Romans 12:2)