More to Life Than Chef-boy-r-dee
I often wonder when society became so lazy?!?!?! Nowadays, there is an emerging belief that we are entitled to get whatever we want – and unfortunately, the same stance promotes not actually having to work for it. We see it every day in our lives, right from the most simple of things to the extremely complicated. There is no particular demographic that supports this trend. We see it from young children right up to some of my parent’s generation.
About 10 years ago, I started texting. I never understood short form texts (and I still don’t). For me, it’s not easier to write “I h8 snow” than to just write “I hate snow” but lots of people do it. WHY??? It takes just as much time to switch screens, possibly more to think about how to put the words in short form than it does to just write the words out in full. If I send a text, I write each word, use proper punctuation and I expect my son to do the same thing.
Some people think I am crazy, but I believe that proper communication skills – both written and spoken — are important. I do not have to look far to prove my point. Today, we have an entire generation of kids growing up right now who won’t be able to spell actual words when they are adults because they do not practice proper writing methods outside of school.
If I can take this initial thought one step further, I see people on a daily basis who ask advice for everything. Not complicated issues but questions like — what diapers work best for overnights? Other questions include: my baby has gas but I’m not sure how to burp them; what car should I buy that will best fit my car seats; who do I call if my dryer breaks; how much does it cost to spay/neuter my pet; what time does Walmart close, etcetera. All valid questions but these are the same queries that 10 years ago, people would go searching the answers for themselves. Now we rely on other people to find the answers for us.
At the same time, a growing segment of the population is eating fast food on the run because it’s easier. (It is also way more expensive than pre-planning meals but that is a tangent best left for another day). But as a consequence, I have friends in their 30’s who can’t cook, and I’m not talking about a six course gourmet meal. These same folks can’t even cook simple stuff unless it comes from a can or a box one can microwave. Their grocery store trips consist of buying everything pre-packaged. This is even preferable to making good food from scratch.
Recently, I read a question on a parenting group asking members for suggestions on the best frozen lasagna that will not taste like chef-boy-r-dee when cooked. Ummmm, I immediately thought. How about making your own lasagna from scratch and freezing it!!! (By the way, this particular question was posted by someone who can cook).
As well, we hire people to clean our houses, cook for us, wash our cars, cut our lawns, walk our dogs, do our laundry, and even more so lately, grocery shop for us. I’ve even heard of companies that will clean the dog poop from your yard! Seriously folks, it’s time we take back control and responsibility in our lives. It’s time to shut down the screens and start doing things for ourselves.
If we choose not to, what will happen to our kids, particularly if they have no idea how to do basic work??? Parents are supposed to be role models. Have you ever noticed that if we complain about the simple things, our children will too? In the same context, if we don’t show them that hard work pays off, what exactly are we teaching them????
How about this? The next time we are in a public place, put your own phone away and watch those around you. Take a minute to observe how technology is changing who we are. Teenagers are in groups — playing on phones but not TALKING to each other. Watch the mom in front of you in the lineup, scanning her online messages and yet missing her baby smiling at her. Check out your neighbours who have hired someone to cut their grass, trim the bushes, and rake their leaves? These chores are done by others while the homeowners themselves are inside watching television. Listen to your friends complain because they actually have to go to work, giving them less time to play games on the computer. One can almost guarantee that even if they don’t work, they still expect some form of a pay cheque. Then there are the kids who are sad because they lost their sports game but know inwardly that they didn’t even try to win. Consider how our life is changing the social fabric, and I suspect it’s not for the better.
More and more, we are forgetting that life isn’t always supposed to be easy. There are supposed to be challenges because that is how we grow. Even with all the time-saving devices in the world, we shouldn’t get rewarded for doing nothing. And neither should we expect to get rewarded for doing nothing. To that end, we need to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps and start doing things for ourselves. This means taking back control of our lives – even when that might include working. It definitely means learning how to effectively converse with our friends — before we forget how.
“For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies. Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.”
(2 Thessalonians 3:10-12)