You’ve often heard it said that distance makes the heart grow fonder. I helps a person to appreciate those special people that are near to our hearts. At least it sure does for me. The first day is like a break but very quickly the realization sets in for me that I do in fact miss the ones I love. I think its only natural. To feel nothing would suggest to me an absence of love.
I was having a conversation the other day with a co-worker about love notes in his lunch can. He had a huge stack of notes in there which I’m sure is everyone she ever wrote to him. I would suppose by the size of the notes that each one had a few sentences or more on them. He sends a text message in reply once he has read the note for that day. As he observed me on my smart phone I told him that I have been text messaging my wife everyday on lunch and breaks since we started dating over ten years ago.
The conversation made me think about how important it is to talk to our spouses. I have heard many times before single men refer to marriage as being, ‘whipped.’ Really and truly these men are afraid of commitment and do not realize what it takes to show a woman she is loved. I am not however stating that I myself fully understand how women think and feel but, I know it takes effort.
My first welding mentor put it like this, “Steel is like a woman, one minute you think you know what it’s going to do and the next minute it does something the complete opposite”. God created us all equal but he did create men and women for different purposes. There are so many marriages that fail at certain points. There are certainly many reasons why people divorce that I need not mention but I will say that small things can become big problems. One of the ways to keep your marriage in check is to have that constant conversation with total honesty. Even the smallest of lies can open the door for the devil into your marriage. Honesty is “ALWAYS” the best policy, even when it hurts you or your spouse.
It isn’t always easy and sometimes it can be difficult to have a happy marriage. The Bible tells us to do all things for God’s glory! Even our marriages! When we have a joyful heart and give glory to God in all things, we can keep our focus on how God intended our marriage instead of how man intends it.
Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ first loved the church and gave himself up for her..”
There is so much to learn in the bible as a whole. I have been reading Ephesians chapter 5 over and over again for years. Jesus continually reveals new knowledge to me out of this one chapter in the bible. The “Word” of God did indeed become flesh and is a living word. If you read that verse one more time you will see that we as husbands are commanded to love our wives first (after submitting to God). You are also told to give yourself up for her. Men….this means sacrifice. Don’t worry, you don’t have to give it all up at once but be prepared. Sacrifice is really a prequel for an even greater joy that cannot be comprehended until you truly sacrifice something. You will undoubtedly agree with me when it happens.
This following scripture is one of my favorites for many reasons.
1 Corinthians 2:9 “What no eye has seen, what no ear has heard, and what no human mind has conceived” the things God has prepared for those who love him-
True love brings true sacrifice. Submit yourself to Jesus and love Him, the possibilities to follow are unfathomable.